7 Mar 2018

Self Care

I don't think I'm qualified to write this post. Just thought I would get that out of the way.

I tend to live my life in extremes. I am either doing everything or nothing. For example, I either keep up with emails, blogs, and commitments. Or I let everything build up to a crazy degree and sit staring at everything piling up and I'm unable to do a thing.
I get up at 7:00 am, exercise, hydrate, and eat healthy, or I spiral into a state of  immobility, eating junk, and watching obscure youtube videos.

 I have a balance problem. I work with constant chaos and sometimes it consumes me. Another aspect of this is I tend to overreach myself. I take on way too many things at once. I pile things up until I'm crushed by it and then nothing gets done, and the depression sweeps in.

This is my typical life cycle, and it's getting tedious. That's understating it a bit, it's killing me actually.

This year, I decided I would start to work on fixing this problem. Or at the very least try to figure out why I did this to myself.

I'm an Empath, I feel deeply for other people. I take on their problems, pain, and even their emotions. This is a good thing, because I understand people on a deep level. It's a bad thing, because I forget I have my own emotions and problems. I put myself last, which I don't think is a bad thing. I like helping people.

I just need to remember to take care of myself too

There is a huge difference between self care and self love. I think this generation is too self centered, so I'm not into the whole 'love yourself ' thing. It's not what the Bible teaches either.

I'm simply talking about breaking unhealthy habits, and taking a breather every now and then. I also need to teach myself that there is nothing selfish about treating yourself with the same care you give to others. Especially when you hit your breaking point.

You're human, it's normal to fall apart and breakdown. Ideally it's better if you don't let yourself to get to that point. So here are some of the things I do to take care of myself.

1. Nothing (okay this probably seems dumb, but by nothing I mean not letting myself do any of the million things I feel like I have to do. Sometimes you have to let yourself relax, completely. Doing this can do wonders for your mental state.)

2. Keep up with your physical health. ( I don't just mean like exercise and diet,but both of those are good too! I was lethargic all the time, turns out I was anemic and need to take iron pills. Something as simple as that can go a long way to improving your life.)

3. Do something for yourself! (Read that book you've been putting off, watch a movie you love, just do something that brings you joy)

4. Finish something (It works better if it's something that you have been putting off for a long time.)

5. Take social media breaks (It's nice to spend more time in the real world.)

6. Pamper yourself a little ( have a nice bath with bubble bars or bath bombs, face mask are super soothing.)

7. If you have a problem try to solve it instead of putting it off.

8. Go get coffee or a tea from your favorite place. (I find this always puts me in a good mood.)

9. Say no, don't commit to too many things. ( This is incredibly freeing)

10. Give yourself time (Just be easy on yourself, your not a machine)

 I hope this was a little bit helpful to someone, I'm still learning myself. Self care for me right now is binge watching Anime, so like I said probably not the right person for this.


  1. This was amazingly helpful, Skye. I think life tends to have such a tendency to spiral into a rat race, and just hearing the words “relax” and “accomplish something meaningful” can set us to bristling. But it’s so important...thanks for the reminder :)

    1. Thank you! It does, I think this whole generation has a problem with relaxing. It is!
      No problem, thanks for reading!

  2. I think this post is great! And you pointed out something that I completely agree with and that is there's a difference between caring for yourself and loving yourself. I think, in some instance, we are to love ourselves because God made us, but not in the, "I love myself, I'm so amazing" way. More like because God made me and I appreciate all of Creation way. So I definitely agree with you on that because our generation is becoming more and more self-absorbed. It's sad, really.

    But this post is extremely helpful. So thank you. <3


    1. Thanks Ivie! I think it gets really twisted in today's culture and people confuse the two. Definitely, we do need to appreciate that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. It is sad, and I always try to remember that life is so much bigger than me, and my problems.

      Glad you think so! <3

  3. Excellent post, Skye! I think as someone who deals with the highs and lows that makes you a perfectly qualified person to write about it! If someone who hasn’t dealt with it were to try and write a post like this it would fall flat because it would sound fake. So, well done. Im so glad you are finding ways to take care about of yourself. You are a wonderful human being, and deserve to live life free of those terrible lows, and I think you give great advice! Your suggestions are simple and straightforward, and make the utmost sense. *hugs*

    1. Thanks Maddie! Awe, that's super sweet to say. Well I'm glad it didn't come across as flat, I really want posts like these to help people dealing with similar things. It's a work in progress, but it has been working. *hugs* That is the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a while. Thank you so much, you're a gem!

  4. As a fellow Empath, I know your struggle, Skye....I get really emotionally invested in other people to the point of anxiety and depression too, which is not a good thing.

    These tips are super helpful, I've done a few of them myself over the years. I probably should do more of them...

    You're a special person, Skye! You'll beat these lows, I have confidence in you!


    1. It's rough! Glad that you understand though. <3

      Thanks! I should do more of them myself :D

      That means a lot!:D Thank you so much! I'm going to try!

  5. This post is just amazing, Skye. You are also an amazing person! I shall be praying that this time will pass.

    Also that gif of Zen at the end. :D


    1. Thanks Lilah! My sister wouldn't agree with that but thanks for saying it! Prayers are always appreciated. :D

      Omigoodness your an anime fan, eep! I just binged Snow White with the Red Hair, Zen is such a sweetheart. What are your favorites?

    2. Snow White with the Red Hair is one of my very favorites! I also really love Atatsuki No Yona, Ouran Host Club, Kaichou Wa Maid Sama, and Hakuoki. I'm working through Food Wars right now, I really like that one too!


  6. I'm very much the same way... Skye, I'm happy you're on this awesome journey of figuring out what's best for you, and how to treat yo' self. You go gurl! :)

    YAS ANIME What are your faves? (:

    1. Well hopefully we can both find balance. That's a great word for it'a journey' it really does feel like that. Thank you so much! :)

      Yes, always excited to meet other anime lovers! Well currently, Snow White with the Red Hair, Ouran Highschool Host Club, Deathnote, The Wallflower, My Little Monster. I have been trying to branch out a but more. What are your favorites?

  7. You ARE qualified because you're trying and learning and feeling the ups and downs and in the very thick of it. That makes you fully and completely qualified. This whole post is REAL and AUTHENTIC and I love it so very much!

    I live in extremes, too! I'm an all or nothing person, absolutely. I either do alllll the things and nearly kill myself, or sit around and do nothing and let it pile up. THERE IS NO IN BETWEEN! I've been trying really, really hard to balance things out (but I fail so much still).

    Your list and thoughts are golden and the very things I've been thinking about as well. This post is so timely! Because we DO need to take care of ourselves, we do need to make sure we don't hit the breaking point. Our body is God's temple and He WANTS us to take care of it. I like how your list has points on resting AND being productive, 'cause that's the key I think. Again, that ever elusive balance thing. Maybe one day I'll get it right! Lol.

    But seriously, this post was fantastic! THANK YOU FOR SHARING! <3

    1. I needed to hear that, thank you so much! I'm so glad, whenever I read over my posts I get the urge to delete them. So I'm happy it didn't fall flat.

      It's a horrible way to live. I hope we both find a way to deal with it, it's a lot of work. You're only human :)

      Thanks, you should do a post on it. I would love to hear your thoughts. Oh good! I agree, I've neglected it for so long, and fixing yourself is hard. Yes, that's something I try to remember. I find that too much resting leads to the same result. One day hopefully :D

      Thank you so much! I'm just glad you enjoyed it, Thanks for reading! <333